Online dating is a thing that is getting more and more popular as we progress as a society on a global scale, which means there are a lot of people doing it. Using online dating apps, I mean. And sex too, people are having a lot of sex, but back to my main point. We, as humans are constantly looking for different ways to connect with one another on an almost daily basis. In my time with internet dating, I have seen some fascinating and straight-up odd dating profiles that have either made me swipe right in curiosity or have had conversations with individuals that were offensive or off-putting, to say the least. And so begs the question: If your dating profile is the first thing a person sees, how can you make sure that someone notices you, your personality, and make them want to swipe right? I have a couple tips on how to do just that. Just so I don’t overwhelm you with too much information, I will be breaking this down into two parts. So be on the look-out for a part two in the future. Let’s dive in.
Take / Use Realistic Photos
Please, please, please! Do not use photos from a decade ago, over-edited photos that beautify you to perfection, blurry photos, have you partaking in illegal activities or photos with a bunch of people in it that cannot clearly point you out as the main subject. Ideally, you want to use photos that your face can clearly be seen. Use ones that show you doing a favorite hobby. Pictures of you showing off your riches or beauty in a boasting way that can sometimes send the wrong message to the person viewing your profile. I would say keep the sexy to a minimum until you get to know the person you potentially will match with. It’s never a good idea to boast or brag about your finances or the nice things you have online for obvious security reasons. If you’re looking to hook-up with someone, then, by all means, show all the skin you want. In my personal opinion, I think that’s putting the cart before the horse, but we’ll touch more on that part later.
Don’t Set Your Standards Too High
It’s perfectly okay to have standards. Everyone should have a set of traits that they would like their potential partner, friend, or hook-up to possess. Having a set of standards for your ideal partner demonstrates that you have a sense of self-concept. And when you know who you are, you know what you want. With confidence. Setting too high of expectations for another person, however can make you seem choosy or not in touch with reality. You also might be significantly less likely to get a date or even be entertained by someone who might have swiped right if they didn’t read your bio just to see that you only date women or men of a certain body type or financial status. Be more open to getting to know someone beyond their looks and other traits and understand that higher your standards are set, the more narrow your choices will be. That just comes with the territory.
Set Your Intentions
Only you know the real reason as to why you’re creating an account on a dating app. Make those intentions clear in the bio section of your profile or within the first couple moments of chatting with a match. If you’re looking for a hook-up, say that. If you’re looking for a friend to hang out with, say that. If you’re looking for a meaningful relationship, you can say that too. On second thought, maybe hold off on that last one until you go on a first couple dates. You should always be clear with the people you are talking to on a dating app. No one likes to be led on only to be disappointed. This also goes both ways. If someone tells you their intentions, tell them whether or not you need some time to decide if what they want to do is something you want to do with them. Sometimes you need to get to know someone a little bit more before making a decision and vice versa.
Don’t Dive Into Personal Details/Giving Them Out Too Soon
In my personal opinion and experience, there is never a need to tell someone personal details of your life so soon. Your phone number is one thing. But unless you are really sure you can trust someone with sensitive information, I wouldn’t suggest giving out your home address so quickly, especially if you’re not meeting up with them at your house for the first date which is something I would never do in the first place. I always suggest meeting in a public place first, feeling each other out, then decided whether or not you want to take them home with you on the spot. If someone is pressuring you to give out your personal information, you always have the option to tell them no, and if all fails, block them. This also goes for sharing any type of financial asset information. Sometimes, people don’t have very nice intentions for people on dating apps and only pursue individuals who look like they have a lot of money or wealth. By letting someone know that you got it like that, you are also making yourself a target to those who are looking for a come-up and might be will to put the paws on you/hurt you for it.
Check Your Grammar and Spelling
When someone looks at your profile and sees that you didn’t spell something right or your lack basic sentence structure, it can turn them off quickly. The last thing you want to do is to give off the impression that you created your profile in a rush with no care for details. We as humans also have a tendency to gauge intelligence, based on what we see, someone has written no matter how small the sample of their writing is. Being able to put yourself, who you are, and what you’re looking for into a verbal context is very important if you want a prospective date to take you seriously and want to get to know more about you offline and in real life.
Final Thoughts
Aside from all these points, I want the most significant takeaway to be that online dating should be fun and safe. You are entitled to meet new people and hopefully have some fantastic experiences all from the convenience of your smartphone. I think these tips are ideal for those new to online dating, but those who are more experienced can use these make improvements to their dating profiles. Who knows? A couple changes using these tips might get you more right swipes.
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